Talking to Your Health Care Provider

If you’ve tried the self-help tips and still have a problem that is causing you distress, see your health care provider. If your provider does not ask you about sex, bring up the topic yourself. Some women find talking with their doctors about sex to be difficult or embarrassing. However, being open about it can help your provider know how to help you. Try bring up the subject early in the visit. You could start off with a statement like:

“I am having some concerns about my sex life.”

“I do not enjoy sex like I used to.”

“I am feeling sad lately; my partner is complaining I never want sex.”

Keeping a journal may be helpful. You can be more specific when you talk about your symptoms and any changes you have noticed if you write them down. Use your notes to describe your symptoms:

“It hurts when I have sex.”

“I am having problems with vaginal dryness.”

“Urinating after sex is painful.”

“I used to be able to have orgasms, but now I do not. Why is this happening?”

“Lately, I have been having trouble with intimacy. What can I do?”

“I am just not interested in sex. Do you have any advice?”

“Getting older has affected my love life. Is there a fix?”